Little One left 3 weeks ago. Since then I’ve had just a few calls from DHS about possible placements.
Yesterday, around 1:00 pm, I got an email from my DHS Resource Worker, would I take sisters, 2 and 7, just coming into care?
I asked a few questions. I said yes.
Luckily, I was working from home, so I was able to do some things on my breaks and make some phone calls. I speed picked up the house. I vacuumed. I made the bed in the kiddos’ room. I cleaned my bathroom. I called day cares. I figured out a morning drop off schedule and an after school care solution for the older sister. I talked to DHS off and on throughout the day.
Around 5:30 pm she called me again, the girls were at the doctor, but as soon as they were done she’d bring them over.
I ran to the store for milk and bread.
20 min later, she called back. They were working on approving a provisional placement (a relative), but weren’t sure it would work out. She’d let me know.
Around 7:00 pm she called back. The provisional placement was approved. They weren’t coming.
This is Foster Care. Fits and starts. Stop and go. Adrenaline and let down.
I’m happy they found a relative that was willing and able to take the girls. It’s the best possible solution to a horrible situation. I’m a little disappointed for myself, but that won’t last.
It wasn’t a waste of my time. I have a clean house. I made connections with a new case worker. I discovered some new day care options for future kiddos.
A foster mom friend sent me this message and I couldn’t say it any better than she did:
“A lot of these kids have very little attention given to them. They don’t see the doctor when they should. They miss school. They don’t have bedtimes or sleep in the car late at night. A lot of them are fed only snacks when they whine. A lot know only selfish love. Their parents live their addiction more than their children. They’re being raised by people who are ill and unfocused.
And today, two kids (who I am totally guessing had a life like that) had someone like you who not only was willing to love them with no relation or relationship to them, but also gave up her afternoon focused on ALL THEIR NEEDS. It’s a powerful demonstration of love. It is NOT a waste.
I just want you to remember in these fits and starts that what God has called you to do MATTERS. He sees you.”
And now I wait, until the phone rings again…
“Whatever you do, work heartily, as for the Lord and not for men.” – Colossians 3:23